Jewish Funeral Flowers: To Send or Not To Send


Often times, we immediately think ‘flowers’ when somebody you know has passed and you wish to comfort the mourning family. I recommend always to do your own research when it comes to funeral etiquette.  Different religions accept different acknowledgements when it comes to funerals, and it is most important to keep within a family’s tradition.


In the Jewish religion, the burial happens within twenty four hours of the death. If the death happens during Sabbath or another Jewish festival, the burial will take place afterwards and there will be no wake and no flowers should be sent. In Orthodox Jewish religion, flowers are never to be sent.


It is custom for family and friends to visit after the family’s seven day mourning period, known as Shiva, has come to an end. It is custom to bring a food dish as opposed to funeral flowers to the house to show your sympathy. It is recommended to bring uncut fruit or baked goods from a Kosher bakery store.


Another alternative to sending flowers to a Jewish funeral is to make a charitable donation to a cause that may be close to the family’s heart. You may consider such organizations like Habitat For Humanity or a more religious based organization such as United Jewish Appeal. You can simply call either of these and ask about how you can make a donation in the family’s honor. One of the most popular resources is the Jewish National Fund, which is recognized by planting trees in Israel in the name of the deceased loved one. Most would be extremely pleased to have their loved one memorialized through a living tree in the land that is most special to those of the Jewish faith.


For Jewish funeral arrangements, I would suggest passing up on the funeral flowers and choosing one of the more appropriate options discussed above.